Talking to your Spouse About Collaborative Divorce
When you have reached a point in your marriage where you know it is over, it is not always easy to have calm, grounded conversations with your partner. But if you can manage to speak with him or her amicably, you can make the divorce process much easier for yourselves. One significant way you can make the divorce process easier is to choose a collaborative divorce.
If your spouse is not familiar with the concept of collaborative divorce, discuss it with him or her. There are many benefits for you both if you choose this type of divorce. Below are a few tips you can use to start and work through this discussion.
Present it in an Objective Way
Rather than trying to convince your spouse that a collaborative divorce is best for you, present it in an objective way. Contrast collaborative divorce with a traditional courtroom divorce and mediation, which could also be a route to explore for your divorce. Talk about the processes associated with each.
Discuss the Benefits of Collaborative Divorce for your Divorce
Consider discussing the benefits of collaborative divorce in an objective way, like citing cost comparisons between the different divorce methods. During this discussion, bring up the reasons why you feel a collaborative divorce is ideal for you, which could be your ability to work together amicably or your desire to split your marital assets in a specific way, making it necessary that you retain control of the divorce process. Your reasons might not be more specific than that you want to save money, and there is nothing wrong with that. Your reasons for wanting to try collaboration are valid, as are any hesitations your spouse might have.
Encourage your Spouse to Do His or Her Own Research
You cannot decide how you will divorce on your own. Give your spouse the time to do his or her own research on the process and if he or she raises objections, listen to them. Your spouse might have a very different point of view about your marriage and how well you can be served by a collaborative divorce. It is important that you remember not to try to convince your spouse to agree to a collaborative divorce because it is what you want, but to work with him or her to determine the ideal divorce method for your divorce. If you cannot reach this initial agreement amicably, collaborative divorce probably is not right for you.
Work with an Experienced Winter Park Divorce Lawyer
If you are considering using collaborative law to end your marriage, work with a divorce lawyer who has experience handling collaborative divorces. Even though you are in control of the divorce when you choose collaboration, your lawyer can provide you with the essential legal advice and representation you need to successfully complete the process. To get started, contact Sperling Ducker today to set up your flat-rate consultation with us, either in our office or at your preferred location.